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Very one-sided.....
What you want for as long as you want until you are tired of it
Then u leave for the next one
Let me make this clear, I am not a guy who moves from the next girl to the next girl. I do not hookup or do friends with benefits. I was raised to respect woman and be a gentleman at all times. if me and the girl are in agreement on those three things i mentioned before, which would be established before we started anything. i would be committed to her, i have also said if she decides to change her mind on some of the things I will not compromise on, she is free to leave, i will not hold anyone back, i know i am asking for a lot.
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Isn't that kind of the contract all relationships run over in a way? "We are a couple until and/or unless you really p$&@ me off or I don't want you anymore." I don't think I'm wrong on that.
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Hows that going for u diss?
The thread ain't about me and you're not going to bait me into a fight, so don't spend your energy.
But believe there is truth in what I said. That goes for any relationship romantic, employment, or platonic. If one party is done or gets PO'd enough they are going to bounce and nothing can be done about it.
How so?, the girl would know I am committed to her, and if she feels the same about the three things (Marriage,Kids,Co-habitation) and we are together, how is that not a relationship, while not the conventional or traditional relationship, I would still call it a relationship in my eyes.
Never said it wasn't a relationship, but going into it saying that the other person is free to move on if they realize they do actually want more isn't a commitment.
yes, marriages and "permanent" commitments do end, but that's not the same thing as not even wanting that up front.
Again, I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to get the relationship(s) that you want, just that serial monogamy isn't the same thing as a committed relationship. And that's all you are suggesting, not happily ever after, for better or for worse, etc. Those commitments don't have to be in a marriage, they just have to be mutually agreed to - but they don't come along with
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i expect a younger girl to change her mind, which is fine, we would establish that when that time comes she is free to end the relationship.
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Never said it wasn't a relationship, but going into it saying that the other person is free to move on if they realize they do actually want more isn't a commitment.
yes, marriages and "permanent" commitments do end, but that's not the same thing as not even wanting that up front.
Again, I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to get the relationship(s) that you want, just that serial monogamy isn't the same thing as a committed relationship. And that's all you are suggesting, not happily ever after, for better or for worse, etc. Those commitments don't have to be in a marriage, they just have to be mutually agreed to - but they don't come along with
The other person would be free to move on technically even if it wasn't stated.
What OP is saying in what you quoted is there is a high likelihood that a woman may change her mind once the biological clock rears its ugly head and will want to bounce away from a guy who doesn't want the kids lifestyle.
Isn't that kind of the contract all relationships run over in a way? "We are a couple until and/or unless you really p$&@ me off or I don't want you anymore." I don't think I'm wrong on that.
You're not wrong at all.
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Originally Posted by emm74
Again, I'm not saying that you shouldn't try to get the relationship(s) that you want, just that serial monogamy isn't the same thing as a committed relationship. And that's all you are suggesting, not happily ever after, for better or for worse, etc. Those commitments don't have to be in a marriage, they just have to be mutually agreed to - but they don't come along with
What's the deal with everyone's obsession with "commitment"? Seriously, I want to know.
The thread ain't about me and you're not going to bait me into a fight, so don't spend your energy.
But believe there is truth in what I said. That goes for any relationship romantic, employment, or platonic. If one party is done or gets PO'd enough they are going to bounce and nothing can be done about it.
Some people will disagree with this, but i cant say it again how right you are.
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