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Yeah, so you live fairly close (3 hours south) of me. Try living in Oklahoma City and your options diminish by 90% from where you already are.
I wonder if (I'm sorry) this also isn't related to age? As with the OP?
Are you dating age-appropriately? I know you used to want a younger woman to have children with. Just curious as you're not the first 40 or 50something guy around here to say he feels things "aren't like they used to be" and well...I mean, logically...KWIM?
I suppose the OP is complaining that times have changed...
That is exactly what OP is doing, and complaining about something is NOT PRODUCTIVE. Life is what it is. Deal with it or you will have a miserable life.
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Go ahead. It won't change anything. It's still not the area. It's not like you're in small city, or even medium sized city.
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Ignoring you is not going to help his plight.
Meh, I get how being in a small town can hurt stuff. Even a small city. Freaking, I lived in worked in rural Western KY and craphole IN for work/school for awhile. It wasn't good.
But if both Atlanta and Oklahoma City, two different, but both significantly sized metro areas and they both have no one decent? Sorry, not the location.
Meh, I get how being in a small town can hurt stuff. Even a small city. Freaking, I lived in worked in rural Western KY and craphole IN for work/school for awhile. It wasn't good.
But if both Atlanta and Oklahoma City, two different, but both significantly sized metro areas and they both have no one decent? Sorry, not the location.
Atlanta has tons of decent choices. Not a midwest mentality of getting married by 22. So again, it is the location. I'd have no problem in Atlanta, relatively speaking.
I wonder if (I'm sorry) this also isn't related to age? As with the OP?
Are you dating age-appropriately? I know you used to want a younger woman to have children with. Just curious as you're not the first 40 or 50something guy around here to say he feels things "aren't like they used to be" and well...I mean, logically...KWIM?
Yeah, you say this a lot as it applies to me. What's the old formula? Half your age + 7? So I could go as young as 30. In reality, I've dated 8-10 years younger, on average, which is appropriate.
Yeah, you say this a lot as it applies to me. What's the old formula? Half your age + 7? So I could go as young as 30. In reality, I've dated 8-10 years younger, on average, which is appropriate.
I know what the formula is. But women don't fall in line for a formula. I think you need to take a closer look at all these truisms, because they're not playing out in your actual life. And you're still not happy yet.
I know what the formula is. But women don't fall in line for a formula. I think you need to take a closer look at all these truisms, because they're not playing out in your actual life. And you're still not happy yet.
That has more to do with overall quality of life where I live. I assure you its not just dating. I really detest everything about where I live, but can't just up and move until the right opportunity presents itself.
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Atlanta has tons of decent choices. Not a midwest mentality of getting married by 22. So again, it is the location. I'd have no problem in Atlanta, relatively speaking.
Having lived in the Midwest a fair amount (Indiana, Kentucky, Wisconsin, Illinois) there are loads and loads of people that aren't married by 22. In fact, none of the people I knew except for one Mormon I knew were married that young.
Meh, I get how being in a small town can hurt stuff. Even a small city. Freaking, I lived in worked in rural Western KY and craphole IN for work/school for awhile. It wasn't good.
Several years ago I moved to a small town in the Southwest with under 100K population, hoping I would like to retire there. It took me about 6 months to realize that my dating pool would be near to zero. I left for other reasons (small towns bore me) but in retrospect I doubt I would have ever found any LTR had I bought the lovely home I found. While I was there I had several platonic dates with a woman I met on CD.
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Atlanta has tons of decent choices. Not a midwest mentality of getting married by 22. So again, it is the location. I'd have no problem in Atlanta, relatively speaking.
I've never been to Atlanta but it sounds like a pretty hot city from what I've read.
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Yeah, you say this a lot as it applies to me. What's the old formula? Half your age + 7? So I could go as young as 30. In reality, I've dated 8-10 years younger, on average, which is appropriate.
No that's not the formula. It might be viable within a restricted age range.
I've never been to Atlanta but it sounds like a pretty hot city from what I've read.
No that's not the formula. It might be viable within a restricted age range.
Its a great city. Has everything you could ever need.
Well, its the formula I've heard forever. My mother was 12 years younger than my father. He was 39 and she 27 when they got married. In reality, I would go up to 15 years younger. I don't have to date my age because I'm in decent shape and look younger thanks to good genes and taking care of myself. Furthermore, in THIS part of the country, the women my age look much, much older and have let themselves go completely.
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