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I'm a lucky guy, Mrs Chow has simple tastes... she likes what she likes, doesn't matter the price.
Sometimes this can bite me though.......
LMAO...MOST of the times it comes back to bite my husband.
He said I have "radar" for expensive things. I like what I like...whether it was the $12 dress I bought the other day or the ring I wear on my finger.
And that is what was important to me with EVERY purchase we make. If I don't LOVE it, I won't buy it. I'd rather have nothing or wait until I find something I love rather than settle for something else. You collect a lot less crap if you live with that mantra.
I don't necessarily agree with this statement. It comes down to setting aside a budget that works for the fiance or couple and being able to afford a specific price point doesn't mean one should.
I think it should be completely intuitive by being whatever you feel comfortable paying. Some women can be incredibly finnicky about this stuff, but I don't believe in any of the things that these "experts" recommend. They have their own interest invested in this. I myself am not rich but I ended up paying in the early 5 figure range for my engagement ring.
As long as your laptop is more valuable than the woman you marry hopefully for life, you have no business getting married at all.
When me and my ex were VERY lightly discussing marriage, something like this came up. He had just spent $3500 on a new suspension system for his car (he actually started a new credit card for just this purpose) but told me I had a $300 limit for a ring, and if it was anymore expensive than that I would have to cover it.
I didn't want a ring in the first place, but the fact that he would gladly spend money on his car but freaked out at the thought of spending money on me, his possible future wife, really made me re-think things.
When me and my ex were VERY lightly discussing marriage, something like this came up. He had just spent $3500 on a new suspension system for his car (he actually started a new credit card for just this purpose) but told me I had a $300 limit for a ring, and if it was anymore expensive than that I would have to cover it.
I didn't want a ring in the first place, but the fact that he would gladly spend money on his car but freaked out at the thought of spending money on me, his possible future wife, really made me re-think things.
Exactly. By the time people are about to get married, one would think they should have a good idea of each other's finances and preferences, should know if they're compatible, and the ring should be an effortless purchase based on the woman's taste and the man's means, love, and generosity. I'm not really one who cares much about extravagant rings per se. It's the attitude that bothers me - that word "limit" as an example. I don't even care what the number is; I find the word "limit" unacceptable! To me a ring in the 1K-3K range is perfectly OK. Heck, I don't even know what one of the rings I have costs because he bought the diamond separately and I only chose the setting. In fact, giving engagement rings wasn't even done in my culture, but if that's the tradition here, I wouldn't feel appreciated if somebody decides to take the cheapest route, and not because of the ring itself, but because it speaks volumes of his perception of me and the marriage.
Exactly. By the time people are about to get married, one would think they should have a good idea of each other's finances and preferences, should know if they're compatible, and the ring should be an effortless purchase based on the woman's taste and the man's means, love, and generosity. I'm not really one who cares much about extravagant rings per se. It's the attitude that bothers me - that word "limit" as an example. I don't even care what the number is; I find the word "limit" unacceptable! To me a ring in the 1K-3K range is perfectly OK. Heck, I don't even know what one of the rings I have costs because he bought the diamond separately and I only chose the setting. In fact, giving engagement rings wasn't even done in my culture, but if that's the tradition here, I wouldn't feel appreciated if somebody decides to take the cheapest route, and not because of the ring itself, but because it speaks volumes of his perception of me and the marriage.
Exactly it shows what he considers to be a priority!My first ring cost my husband $800 that was 30yrs ago...I needed a magnifying glass to see it!!! The "second"ring (same husband) was a 3carat marquise setting...but I had to sell it about 3yrs ago when our finances changed...but I still have my first little ring!!
Exactly it shows what he considers to be a priority!My first ring cost my husband $800 that was 30yrs ago...I needed a magnifying glass to see it!!! The "second"ring (same husband) was a 3carat marquise setting...but I had to sell it about 3yrs ago when our finances changed...but I still have my first little ring!!
Exactly. I knew at that point that his car would always be more important to me. I couldn't help but think that if we ever had children that his car would probably be more important to them as well.
This is coming from a huge gearhead as well... I could understand it a bit more if it was a 68 GTO or a 71 Cuda....but it was a newer Honda S2000.
I painfully hate it when I have to "pretend" to be nice and say, "Oh my Goodness, it's beautiful" and in truth, you need a magnifying glass to even see it ...
While it shouldn't be about the size, or money, it should be about happily ever after, an investment, symbol, and token of your love - and big enough to be proud to show off !!!!!!!!!!
As long as your laptop is more valuable than the woman you marry hopefully for life, you have no business getting married at all.
And the only demonstration of how much I value her is a damn ring? How about, say, putting bread on the table? Always being there for her? Or even having the nuts to say "Hey, this might sound crazy but I really want to build a life with you and I'll do whatever I can to make sure it works, through thick and thin"?
Of course my laptop isn't more valuable than a woman I want to marry. But I do think it is more valuable than a not-that-rare piece of rock.
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