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I don't think people that spank are bad people or bad parents either.
Parents (most of them) know their own children. Some children don't require a single spanking their entire life. Some children just get more defiant with a spanking. But there are some -- especially at age 2 -- that a gentle swat on the butt will shake them up and make them listen.
I've seen some kids who are just natually behaved and will actually listen to reason from a very early age -- but every one isn't the same.
The important thing though is for parents to exert some kind of control over their children from an early age -- you have to gain their respect. If you do that then later you will not have much trouble. If you fail to get their respect -- then you'd better line up some good counselors -- hopefully that they will respect since they don't respect the parent.
Parents (most of them) know their own children. Some children don't require a single spanking their entire life. Some children just get more defiant with a spanking. But there are some -- especially at age 2 -- that a gentle swat on the butt will shake them up and make them listen.
I've seen some kids who are just natually behaved and will actually listen to reason from a very early age -- but every one isn't the same.
The important thing though is for parents to exert some kind of control over their children from an early age -- you have to gain their respect. If you do that then later you will not have much trouble. If you fail to get their respect -- then you'd better line up some good counselors -- hopefully that they will respect since they don't respect the parent.
Bravo, sensible, realistic and wise post and ain't that the truth...Creme
I would most definitely spank or get physical with a 15 year old. Imagine having a 15 year old tell you "F... off" or seriously disrespect you in some way to see what you're going to do about it -- and you simply stand there in shock or tell them something they already know "Darling sonny boy -- that wasn't nice". If a child absolutely does not respect you -- then no -- he will hit you back. If that child has been brought up with some fear of pushing you past your limits -- then no -- he will not hit you back.
Parents fearing their own kids is a serious problem. If a parent has let things go -- and then decides to take control at age 15 -- yes it's already too late.
I agree with you, but there may be times when a 15-year-old needs to be punished for an issue other than respect, when spanking might be appropriate.
While I think spanking can turn into abuse, I'm not sure about restricting it with laws. However, I think parents who feel the need to resort to spanking don't know how to parent. My parents never laid a hand on me or my sister and we turned out pretty great. My parents exemplify good parenting and an integral part of their parenting philosophy is treat your child with RESPECT.
While I think spanking can turn into abuse, I'm not sure about restricting it with laws. However, I think parents who feel the need to resort to spanking don't know how to parent. My parents never laid a hand on me or my sister and we turned out pretty great. My parents exemplify good parenting and an integral part of their parenting philosophy is treat your child with RESPECT.
Here, here! Giving respect is a critical part in cultivating a respectful human being.
Parents (most of them) know their own children. Some children don't require a single spanking their entire life. Some children just get more defiant with a spanking. But there are some -- especially at age 2 -- that a gentle swat on the butt will shake them up and make them listen.
I've seen some kids who are just natually behaved and will actually listen to reason from a very early age -- but every one isn't the same.
The important thing though is for parents to exert some kind of control over their children from an early age -- you have to gain their respect. If you do that then later you will not have much trouble. If you fail to get their respect -- then you'd better line up some good counselors -- hopefully that they will respect since they don't respect the parent.
I cannot possibly see how spanking can encourage respect. Fear? Maybe. Respect? Hardly.
I can see some kids who may need their butts spanked.
I have been very lucky in only ever having to smack my kids hands one time ever, when she was trying to put something in a light socket at 2 years old and it worked.
She has never been spanked and never has needed to be.
I can see some kids who may need their butts spanked.
I have been very lucky in only ever having to smack my kids hands one time ever, when she was trying to put something in a light socket at 2 years old and it worked.
She has never been spanked and never has needed to be.
I always here such examples on these forums. Maybe I'm just special, but my little girl never even thought about doing something like that, even when she was one years of age.
But of course, it might be because I parented her in such a way, that she knew what was dangerous, and what was not.
To this day, she has never tried to put her finger in a light socket, cross the street by herself, touch a hot stove (or radiator), play with knives, jump out the window, or even get super close to it.
I wonder why she is so special. She must be a genius or something.
I always here such examples on these forums. Maybe I'm just special, but my little girl never even thought about doing something like that, even when she was one years of age.
But of course, it might be because I parented her in such a way, that she knew what was dangerous, and what was not.
To this day, she has never tried to put her finger in a light socket, cross the street by herself, touch a hot stove (or radiator), play with knives, jump out the window, or even get super close to it.
I wonder why she is so special. She must be a genius or something.
You were simply very fortunate...
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