Are Open Relationships Stronger than Exclusive Ones? (girls, neighbor, serious)
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It's just sex. Would you mind your spouse playing chess, or tennis, or golf with another person? For us, that's no different.
For many people including I, that is not a fair comparison. Some hold sex with their loved one as sacred. I think your minimizing what for some means a whole lot more than it does obviously for you.
That's great that for you sex is equivalent to playing tennis. But for a majority of us, it means much more.
Never had an experience in open relationships (or any type of romantic relationship for that matter) but I'm just wondering if, from experience/your own reckoning, you think they might actually be more durable, resilient and strong than strictly exclusive or monogamous relationships? I mean there might be less tension, less suspicion, and if sex is treated as sex, it won't damage the bond they have? Does having sex with another always damage that bond they have with each other? Varies with people, I know...it's probably better on one hand, but worse on the other because there's the potential that an emotional connection could be formed through sex.
Basically, though, do you think it's a more 'enlightened' form of relationship, or basically an excuse to be promiscuous?
Can't answer these questions, but I will say this. Very few animals are monogamous (one mate):
gibbons
swans
black vultures
french angelfish
wolves
albatross
termites
prairie voles
turtle doves
schistosoma mansoni worms
bald eagles
Millions are polygamous (more than one mate), including humans.
I get that you and your wife have mutual consent, but I don't know anyone else who feels the way you do. The idea of my wife being with with anyone other than me sickens and enrages me at the same time.
That's great that for you sex is equivalent to playing tennis. But for a majority of us, it means much more.
That's fine. The difference is, I'm not telling you that your way is wrong. As you've seen on this thread (though I don't know if you're guilty of it yourself), there are many who tell us our way is wrong.
Your way is fine for you. Our way is fine for us. Viva la difference.
However, that doesn't mean that sex should stay exclusive to the couple.
Again, iyho. If they're married, that's what I believe. If it works for you to not see it that way, that's OK for you.
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