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I may not be the "Feels police" as you say but I am just going on what is considered the consensus by the vast majority. You may be an outlier in this regard. What I am saying is that the mainstream view is that if it ain't PIV it ain't sex... and good or great sex requires PIV. Other forms of sex are auxillary to PIV because PIV is the final resulting act of lovemaking. You're right that each person defines this for themselves but I am talking about views as discussed by the majority.
Many people consider a relationship to be "sexless" even if there are other types of sex but PIV is absent. A relationship without PIV is just nothing more than a platonic roommate type situation.
So... If your girlfriend let another man play in her funhouse, as long as he didn't use his wang-doodle, you'd be cool with that since it's not real sex and not really cheating like having sex with another person, right? No bond could have formed. Not really. They are like platonic roommates! Who cares if they both chowed down on tacos and burritos that one time, as long as no sour cream got in the taco, it's all bueno!
This is the same logic that has kids thinking backdoor action "doesn't count" and leaves one still a virgin. It's madness. The other stuff only helps avoid pregnancy, but then so does using protection and you don't see people arguing that sex with a woman on the pill "doesn't count" or that gay people who have sex didn't actually have sex.
And the best of the many partners I've experienced had one thing in common. It was not all about PIV, and the other stuff was what made it amazing. No man has ever blown my mind with his D. No matter how big it was or how long he could last or what position. Think I'm a vocal minority? Start a poll. Ask how many women think that PIV is the defining, or most enjoyable sexual act, versus how many do not, and ask men the same thing. I'm betting that far more men think it's the end-all, be-all, than women. Yes, the way most sex is scripted, everything else is an appetizer and PIV is the main course. Which is why most men are only mediocre lovers except for the ones who have learned better than this. Any woman who has had an encounter with one of these learned and skilled men, knows exactly what I'm talking about.
And the rest, if they've experienced PIV at all, have probably experienced BORING PIV that made them wish the dude would hurry up and be done.
Sorry to drag this out, but it really burns my toast when dudes try and tell women how women feel. There is a word for that, but I don't like buzzwords so I'm not gonna use it. Also assuming you know how a woman feels without getting input from HER is another good way to be a bad lover, since we aren't all exactly alike. (Neither are men!)
If she sucks in bed and just lays there like a dead body yes I would break up with her. No man wants to have sex with a woman who thinks she doesn't have to do anything in bed.
Its just sex... Anybody can have that. It takes a lot more to have a real connection w/ somebody.
Sex is three minutes, true love can last a life time. So yeah I would not care how our intimate life was Im much more interested in the person, spending time together, snuggling etc.
Its just sex... Anybody can have that. It takes a lot more to have a real connection w/ somebody.
Sex is three minutes, true love can last a life time. So yeah I would not care how our intimate life was Im much more interested in the person, spending time together, snuggling etc.
Sex can last longer than three minutes.
A good sex life helps to make a relationship great.
Its just sex... Anybody can have that. It takes a lot more to have a real connection w/ somebody.
Sex is three minutes, true love can last a life time. So yeah I would not care how our intimate life was Im much more interested in the person, spending time together, snuggling etc.
Sex is three minutes, true love can last a life time. So yeah I would not care how our intimate life was Im much more interested in the person, spending time together, snuggling etc.
I can see why.
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