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I went to my weekly rap group for men over 50 at a community center, and this topic came up. I thought it was interesting.
The question is: "Single people: have any of you given up on finding love or a committed relationship? Whether yes or no, please explain why."
I would love it if you would share your thoughts on this topic.
Yes, I pretty much have at this point. It would take the Titanic to resurface before I could honestly trust a woman again! I came into this world alone, and that's how I'm sure I'll leave ... alone. I'll date on occasion, but I'll NEVER marry again!
Although I'm not happy to find out others didn't find what they were looking for, either, it was oddly comforting to know that I'm not alone in my alone-ness. Sometimes it seems as though everyone around me has someone in their life.
Good thread, Clark Park, thanks.
It doesn't really help when I log on to FB to find out that many of my friends are currently engaged, some of them got engaged this weekend.
It puts things in perspective for me. I won't ever have an opportunity to know what that feeling is like.
I had a similar experience to what you describe. At my old job, I met a woman and we became friends. We hung out a lot; and of course I started to like her. I never told her though. When I left the job, she said we could still hang out; but that was before I sent her "love letter" of sorts over facebook. Never heard back from her after that. She never outright said I was needy or clingy or anything. But I suspect that may have been in her thought process. I considered that situation a lesson learned.
She was probably waiting for you to tell her, since she said you could hang out and stuff.
I just look at guys for 'eye candy' I don't even bother otherwise. Sometime they just stare and don't say anything I never knew what to do. Unless they approach (which they don't and I'm 34) then it's all irrelevant IMO.
It doesn't really help when I log on to FB to find out that many of my friends are currently engaged, some of them got engaged this weekend.
It puts things in perspective for me. I won't ever have an opportunity to know what that feeling is like.
You're not missing anything positive.
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Originally Posted by midwest61021
Yes, I pretty much have at this point. It would take the Titanic to resurface before I could honestly trust a woman again! I came into this world alone, and that's how I'm sure I'll leave ... alone. I'll date on occasion, but I'll NEVER marry again!
This. Except the Titanic coming back wouldn't be enough. I know too much now. EVERY god of EVERY pantheon could appear before me and tell me that the continued existence of the universe depended on me remarrying, and I would laugh, crack open a beer, and welcome Ragnarok with a smile on my face.
This. Except the Titanic coming back wouldn't be enough. I know too much now. EVERY god of EVERY pantheon could appear before me and tell me that the continued existence of the universe depended on me remarrying, and I would laugh, crack open a beer, and welcome Ragnarok with a smile on my face.
Singledom, I guess might not be a word but it works and it Rocks! Cheers! * crackin' one open*
... not pursing a relationship at this point had a surprisingly liberating effect on me. There is almost a Buddhist lesson to be learned here ... that yearning and craving is a form of suffering, and letting go of those dreams have put me in a more serene place.
I've experienced love. Maybe I will not experience marriage or parenthood--I do not know. Regardless if love, or marriage or children come around, I just have the find ways to be humble with whatever I have in the moment. I have to concern myself less with outward expectations and be gracious for the goodness that exists at any given point. As noted in the quotation, I cannot achieve the latter if I am consumed in yearning for something that was not meant for that moment.
Given up...eh? I just need to be okay with any outcome.
This "Woe as Me" party is kinda disturbing and quite depressing. May you all find lasting peace and happiness... in some productive, positive form, and not lean to an over reliance on romantic love being THE means of happiness.
This "Woe as Me" party is kinda disturbing and quite depressing. May you all find lasting peace and happiness... in some productive, positive form, and not lean to an over reliance on romantic love being THE means of happiness.
Yes. They say love is an addiction aka cocaine high. I love reading the responses so far! So candid. Reminds me of withdrawal symptoms.
This "Woe as Me" party is kinda disturbing and quite depressing. May you all find lasting peace and happiness... in some productive, positive form, and not lean to an over reliance on romantic love being THE means of happiness.
I hear the kitten and puppy forum are all rainbows and sunshine. Check it out.
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