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We know that. But I don't wanna do all the work and woo her and impress her etc whilst she does absolutely nothing, bar show interest. Anyone can show interest. Its about acting upon that interest. Either way, I fail to see why it is a turn-off for a woman to do the initiating. Many women have done that to me, some very attractive, others not so much. But I still had huge respect for them cos they showed determination, character and went against the social grain of "Im gonna sit on my pedestal until a man approaches me, cos I want to be courted and do zero work and Im too good to pursue the man I am interested in" mentality. Those kinda women don't get another look from me.
I could do all that your hubby did, and yet the girl could turn around say and No. Complete and utter waste of time and effort.
A woman who goes and gets what she wants is 10000x more attractive and sexy than a woman who sits backs with her princess complex [not directed at you btw.]
Oh, I agree with you of course. A woman should reciprocate back if she is interested in you. And doing initiating is not the same as "chasing" by the way as Gwyn worded.
Let me ask you this question, just honestly. You meet a woman somewhere, let's say in a lounge, she is so beautiful and sweet and you have a nice conversation, you are just so interested in her, you would love to ask her out. Would you rather take her number, or at least mutually exchange numbers, or would you just give her your number and wait for her to call you? Just be honest. Also, keep in mind that you are an attractive, not an average looking guy.
I think if a man really really wants a woman, he will pursue her. That's it. Otherwise, he is just not that interested.
Why don't men pursue women anymore? Seems it only happens in the movies.
In my own experience, men will give me their phone numbers....and ask me to call them....and I'm 45 years old! This seems messed up.
Any comments gentlemen? Preferably men over 40 to answer please.
(not that the young guys can't answer this.....they don't seem to be the ones afraid....it's the older ones)
Well, from the responses so far, it seems like you should give up the notion of looking for a man to "woo" you. I'm afraid it's considered a bit taboo by today's standards but I get what you are asking about. It's just another reality of today's dating world and where feminism has come to bite us in the a**! So my dear, YOU must bear the burden of the fear of rejection, making the initial phone call, etc. because it seems many men are just not going to put themselves out there.
I cannot possibly be the only one here who's noticing that:
A. The participating women in the thread are telling us how we're misinterpreting their actions while filling us in on what they REALLY mean by their actions.
B. These same participating women are telling the participating men what we ACTUALLY mean by our own actions.
No, really -- I'm not making this up. Read back through this thread.
I cannot possibly be the only one here who's noticing that:
A. The participating women in the thread are telling us how we're misinterpreting their actions while filling us in on what they REALLY mean by their actions.
B. These same participating women are telling the participating men what we ACTUALLY mean by our own actions.
No, really -- I'm not making this up. Read back through this thread.
Speaking from myself only. I'm only telling men how I interpret their actions. That's it.
I cannot possibly be the only one here who's noticing that:
A. The participating women in the thread are telling us how we're misinterpreting their actions while filling us in on what they REALLY mean by their actions.
B. These same participating women are telling the participating men what we ACTUALLY mean by our own actions.
No, really -- I'm not making this up. Read back through this thread.
Umm......I don't have the skills to work that kind of mojo.
*leaves room to get male vodoo doll*
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Seems it only happens in the movies.
I'm afraid it's considered a bit taboo by today's standards but I get what you are asking about. It's just another reality of today's dating world and where feminism has come to bite us in the a**! 
So my dear, YOU must bear the burden of the fear of rejection, making the initial phone call, etc. because it seems many men are just not going to put themselves out there.
You only mentioned her coming up to you.
