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What I see nowadays is that men are expected to put effort in, but women just want to sit back and let the man do all the working, and all they have to do is say yes and no.
I will only give her special treatment once I know her very well and we're together. I'm not gonna waste my time & effort on wooing and jumping through hoops for a stranger woman, only for her to say no.
Not in my demographic. A simple yea or nay is the only realistic approach to dating the early 40s man. Women who are still playing games at this point aren't being realistic.
Not sure why you are directed this semi angry-sounding post at me. Are you having some sort of hard time in the dating world? Not my fault.
If a man isn't into me, he isn't into me. I don't begrudge him the fact that he hands over his number and moves on. That's life, we don't all feel a connection so strong we want to pursue. If I'm interested, I'll call the guy based on him giving me his number, but I also know he isn't all that wowed by me. Such is life.
My point is you expect the Man to do all the work and sit back and do nothing and then compalin if its not enough interest for your liking..
Giving you his number doesnt autoamtically mean lack of interest at all,as i said he could just be afraid of rejection..
You want a guy to want your number otherwise to you that doesnt show enough itnerest but if he aprpaoched you and wants numbers exchanged in some way theuir has to be a level of interest on his part..
Not sure why you are directed this semi angry-sounding post at me. Are you having some sort of hard time in the dating world? Not my fault.
If a man isn't into me, he isn't into me. I don't begrudge him the fact that he hands over his number and moves on. That's life, we don't all feel a connection so strong we want to pursue. If I'm interested, I'll call the guy based on him giving me his number, but I also know he isn't all that wowed by me. Such is life.
He's wowed enough to express an interest, but because of opportunity cost, he's not going to toss all his eggs in one basket. If he goes with the chicken dinner, he can't also have the roast beef.
What I see nowadays is that men are expected to put effort in, but women just want to sit back and let the man do all the working, and all they have to do is say yes and no.
I will only give her special treatment once I know her very well and we're together. I'm not gonna waste my time & effort on wooing and jumping through hoops for a stranger woman, only for her to say no.
My point is you expect the Man to do all the work and sit back and do nothing and then compalin if its not enough interest for your liking..
Giving you his number doesnt autoamtically mean lack of interest at all,as i said he could just be afraid of rejection..
You want a guy to want your number otherwise to you that doesnt show enough itnerest but if he aprpaoched you and wants numbers exchanged in some way theuir has to be a level of interest on his part..
Where did I complain? Point that out to me please, using the quote function.
If a guy isn't interested, he isn't interested. No skin off my nose, and once again I don't begrudge him for his lack of interest. At this stage of the game I have learned that I can't talk a man into anything.
If for instance, if I'm dating a man and I want it to be serious and committed, NO amount of my pursuing, complaining, begging, debating or game playing will make it happen. A "where is this going" relationship talk is a complete waste of time and it seems to me it just annoys men anyway. If a guy wants that, he will let it be known. If he's not feeling it, he's not feeling it.
If you give me your phone number and I am interested, I will call you one time and one time only. If nothing happens from there, I am moving on and no I won't begrudge you one bit for not calling me back. If you require pursuit, so be it, but you aren't going to get that from me. Been there, done that, if he is interested he will respond from the start. Yes, there are exceptions (such as a painfully shy man) but I'm not going to sort through it to figure it out.
Most of the time, what I am saying is true, and life is too short for me to figure out whether a stranger is the exception rather than the rule.
I have to say that if a man is interested, he WILL pursue. If he doesn't pursue, than he is not that interested. Simple as that.
That's it, simple as that indeed.
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