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You keep making excuses for him not to leave and for you not to call the police?
Are you freakn serious the police would be afraid of him?
He would be angry if the police were here?
Are you hearing yourself..
I cant believe you...
Ooooh this guy would be dead meat in my house. He'd find himself with an emergency room worthy stomach ache ('cause Id feed him breakfast..), then when he got back from the hospital the locks would be changed, my dogs out in the yard and my daddy's shotgun in my hand. Yes, I play dirty.
OP,Get his crap and stick it out on the front lawn while he's away. Have the locks changed first, and be there when he gets back. Lock the doors...ALL of them...use the deadbolt. When he starts ranting/raving or even banging on the door too hard, call the cops. Say you're home alone, your ex boyfriend is at your door and you're afraid because he has a history of alchoholism and is potentially violent. They'll come deal with him then.
I do believe you have enough for a restraining order, you could go to court and try, explain to them what you've said here, he'll have to leave, police will escort him and then change the locks. If he told you the dog would be found dead, any threats should be taken seriously and his anger could quickly turn on you, the guy poses a risk.
Another possibility would be giving him a weekend to pack and leave, treat him like atenant not paying rent. Tell him you'll file an unlawful detainer to remove him, costs money and takes time though.....I don't recommend it, just throwing it out for thought.
You keep making excuses for him not to leave and for you not to call the police?
Are you freakn serious the police would be afraid of him?
He would be angry if the police were here?
Are you hearing yourself..
I cant believe you...
I believe you misunderstood my post. I never said the police would be afraid of him. I haven't made one excuse for his behavior, I've tried to paint a picture of what's happening. I DID call the police. Re-read my posts.
You can't believe me? I can't believe you have read one word I have written.
First things first, you need to go to the sheriff's department/police department and take out a restraing order, immediately.
Then, call your nearest battered women's shelter. They are experts at dealing with manipulative, angry bullies like this and will give you the support you need.
Next you call a locksmith to change all your locks.
After that, spend the time it takes to place ALL of his things on your front porch or in your front yard.
Then you have to be brave enough to call the police when he shows up. He will be angry and bang on the doors, but don't let that intimidate you. The police will take one look at your restraining order and order him to take his stuff and leave your property.
Best of luck, and learn your lesson well - NEVER bring another man into your home like this again until enough time as passed for you to truly know his character and intentions.
I hate when I good give advice and people are too spineless to take it
Ah gotcha.. and wow.. how old were you when you first got married?? How long have you been separated from your ex?? The math doesnt add up correctly.
Good luck.
I was 16. I had to get my parent's permission. I am DIVORCED from my ex for almost 2 years. We were separated for 8 months prior. Does that help?
I am trying really hard to understand posts like this. It has nothing to do with my problem. Should I have written a book length original post covering my entire life?
I hate when I good give advice and people are too spineless to take it
Thanks, that's just what I needed to hear. Never judge people. Someday you may understand and if you don't have the compassion to do so, so be it. I appreciated your advice. But my fear is larger than I can handle right now.
Yea I read all your post
and you need to stop making excuses and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
You cant be asking for advice if you have no intentions of listening and taking the advice thats given to you.
Your wearing a lot of our patience thin..
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