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Seven years that he was purportedly getting ready based on set material goals. They've reached the material goals they had set and he's still "not ready." All but one of their friends have gotten married, so it's not as though it was out of sight. He's in his thirties, "a grown-ass man."
Nothing baseless about an extrapolation of "he doesn't want to get married."
Yes, it's completely baseless, because that's not what OP's BF said, which is all you have to go on. All you people who are projecting all these different bad qualities on OP's partner are the ones who have issues.
Hear that, guys? "Man up" and marry those girls! You're not a "real man" if you can't be properly shamed into marriage.
Good lord I'm glad this is an institution that is dying.
If current trends continue, the marriage rate will hit near zero around 2050.
Ain't no shame in marriage.
A real man commits. Sorry, boys, but that's the way it is. A real man commits to something. It may be to his wife, it may be to his comrades, it may be to his country, it may be to his God. It might even be to all of them.
I'd take it a step further, he probably sees that marriage CAN'T benefit him, it can only be a risk and a detriment for a man.
All of the women who are tired of seeing this situation play out should be petitioning their local, state and federal legislators to make changes to the confiscatory and putative "family" (lol) court system in this country.
Actually marriage is beneficial for men. Married men tend to be healthier and live longer than single or divorced men.
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers.
I'd take it a step further, he probably sees that marriage CAN'T benefit him, it can only be a risk and a detriment for a man.
All of the women who are tired of seeing this situation play out should be petitioning their local, state and federal legislators to make changes to the confiscatory and putative "family" (lol) court system in this country.
A real man commits. Sorry, boys, but that's the way it is. A real man commits to something. It may be to his wife, it may be to his comrades, it may be to his country, it may be to his God. It might even be to all of them.
But a real man commits to something.
Hahahaha....that is so full of the White Knight's creed, man-shaming and sexist gender stereotypes that I don't even know what to do with it.
announcing marriage does bring some social expectations, like fidelity and commitment.
And it does involve legally binding contractural agreements, requiring fidelity and commitment.
Not things that frighten real men who are truly in love.
Fear is just an emotion. i'm not talking about emotions.
i'm talking about the rational calculation of risk:reward
imagine if a man delivered the following ultimatum: "If you really loved me, you wouldn't need to marry me."
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Originally Posted by Ralph_Kirk
Writer Robert Heinlein said, "Love is when another person's happiness is essential to your own." Her happiness is clearly not essential to his.
again, what happens when we flip this on its head? what if a man pulls out the card: "Not being married is essential to my happiness."
do we then conclude that the woman who wants to marry him, by definition, doesn't love him?
A major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses; men who marry after age 25 get more protection than those who tie the knot at a younger age, and the longer a man stays married, the greater his survival advantage over his unmarried peers.
Interesting because when I walk around at work or in public I notice men with a ring on their finger and the majority are all fat and out of shape.
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