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Originally Posted by NewYorker11356
I could be wrong, but one thing that seems rather apparent is that guys tend to feel a connection with most women, while a woman doesn't feel a connection with a lot of guys.
Maybe. I think most guys learn in high school or soon after that someone being nice/friendly and having chemistry are different. Until you figure out what real chemistry looks and feels like, it can be very confusing. Some, it seems, never get there.
You haven't found the right one yet. A connection is made when it "just comes easy" and you enjoy each other's company and have attraction for one another. Don't "do" anything, just be yourself. Stop looking and someone will come along.
Yes.
One of my 'rules' is that I do not 'look'. I simply live my life and the chips will fall where - and when - they may. Exactly how my partner and I 'met' - being in the right place at the right time.
And people *know* when you're 'looking'. Most people do not have 'poker faces'... their 'hunger' is written all over them.
Since this seem to be a recurring problem, what can I do to make connections with women?
That's not a rejection. Would you want to be with a woman you have no connection with? We are all puzzle pieces and not all the pieces fit together, but there are lots that do. Good luck! But do not look at every time you do not match as a rejection.
What did you talk about on the dates? And how did you feel about them? Were you feeling a connection with all 5?
Right. Did you ask them any questions about themselves, their feelings or interests? How did conversation go? Did they have to draw you out or did you converse with them?
One of my 'rules' is that I do not 'look'. I simply live my life and the chips will fall where - and when - they may. Exactly how my partner and I 'met' - being in the right place at the right time.
And people *know* when you're 'looking'. Most people do not have 'poker faces'... their 'hunger' is written all over them.
I get the meaning behind it, but that simply doesn't work for everybody. Some people have to be more proactive and look (while not being desperate or showing desperation, of course).
I don't know about that. I remember this one woman I tried to hit up after we went on a date and she was all like "DID YOU REALLY THINK THERE WAS A CONNECTION?!" in a really angry voice. How is that not rejection??
One of my 'rules' is that I do not 'look'. I simply live my life and the chips will fall where - and when - they may. Exactly how my partner and I 'met' - being in the right place at the right time.
And people *know* when you're 'looking'. Most people do not have 'poker faces'... their 'hunger' is written all over them.
Yeah...this is the approach that makes the most logical sense to me. I honestly don't like dating out right, it feels very forced, unnatural, and just phony. Primarily because romantic connection can not be manufactured by attempting to do romantic things and also it's uncomfortable because you're basically evaluating each other to see if you're a match. My feelings are incredibly infrequent (I've only genuinely connected romantically with one person), unpredictable, and hard to pinpoint. I don't know what makes me like someone. And I don't know when or if I'm going to like someone so it's easier for me to just not engage in it or look for it. If it happens, it happens. I'm not counting it on it though.
what ever you think, but it always works for me. and as proof, look at the way the women of this forum respond to what i say. i am not saying they will jump into bed with me anytime i want, but they will respond favorably to me because i do the things i do that tell them that i LISTEN to them, to what they like, and what they want out of life rather than just let them prattle on and on and ignore everything they say. try it sometime you might find that it works for you too.
I think positive thoughts of you. And when I was dating I sometimes had two dates in one day. For example, Racquetball in the morning with one guy, then dinner with someone else in the evening. It's really all about having fun until you meet the person that is so fun and interesting that you find yourself spending more and more time with them until suddenly you are a couple.
oh wow, OP returned to their own thread 8 years later.
Hows the dating life 8 years later? I would hope you've maybe had 5 more dates with new and different girls since post #1
Not just 8 years ago, but exactly 8 years ago to the day… and picked right up where he left off. It seems like there should be new thoughts and ideas 8 years later. Bizarre.
Not just 8 years ago, but exactly 8 years ago to the day… and picked right up where he left off. It seems like there should be new thoughts and ideas 8 years later. Bizarre.
Lol I didn't realize it was on the exact same day. That's weird.
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Bizarre.
