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Lol I didn't realize it was on the exact same day. That's weird.
I’ll echo the sentiment of the poster above, 8 years is a long time to be stuck with the same issue. What, if anything, have you learned since your op? If nothing, how could anyone help you?
I’ll echo the sentiment of the poster above, 8 years is a long time to be stuck with the same issue. What, if anything, have you learned since your op? If nothing, how could anyone help you?
I guess what I've learned is not to get hung up on a woman if she says there's no connection and to keep looking for a woman that I do have a connection with.
I guess what I've learned is not to get hung up on a woman if she says there's no connection and to keep looking for a woman that I do have a connection with.
Have you made any personal improvements to yourself that would give a better chance of connecting with someone? Or do see it as you just haven’t connected with anyone because you haven’t met the right one (with no improvements needed on your part)?
I think a lot depends on the size of the pond you swim in. And it depends on your looks, sadly. I'm not dating now because I have a health problem that I have to deal with but when I started dating after a 9-year-relationship ended 5 years ago, I had a steep learning curve. Living in a rural area, being obese, with 3 kids, my pond of options was not great. I'd end up dating guys I really didn't feel a connection with just because it didn't seem like there were guys I had a connection with in my pond of options. It wasn't until I started losing weight that my dating started going better. The more weight I lost, the bigger the pond I had to fish from was. I actually found 3 guys I liked and felt connected to but none of the 3 were that into me I think. We seemed to be connected on a personality level but I suspect none of them were interested in a relationship with me. My suspicion was my weight was a problem for them. I lost enough weight for the guys to want to spend the with me but not enough weight to have them be in a relationship with. I think to succeed, a person just has to work on self-improvement and keep dating new people. Eventually you might find someone you click with. Good luck.
Knocking? If he's in his late 30s It has already slammed shut behind him.
I don't think 30s is middle age. Middle age starts at age 40. I just turned 39 so I feel the clock ticking myself. It never bothered me getting to my 30s but I anticipate getting to age 40 with trepidation. Makes me feel sad because I figured I'd have my life together at 40. In October I am moving back in with my mother though because both of us are finding the cost of living squeezing us out.
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