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Maybe it's time to stop pining over a Kelly Brook lookalike from 20 years ago, and move on. You're into your 40s and if you were still with this person I'm sure the rose-coloured glasses would have come off already.
Maybe it's time to stop pining over a Kelly Brook lookalike from 20 years ago, and move on. You're into your 40s and if you were still with this person I'm sure the rose-coloured glasses would have come off already.
I have "moved on." Just never fell in love again.
But this is beside the point of the original question.
But this is beside the point of the original question.
It's not though.
You've spent nearly a quarter century comparing potential dates to someone else while effectively forgetting that you're leaving out a major part of the equation: you.
There's a psychological reason you "can't" find anyone else attractive enough, and it's YOUR problem to fix. There is a wide range of "attractive." It's like your own insecurities have narrowed that range for you in order to protect you from rejection.
You've spent nearly a quarter century comparing potential dates to someone else while effectively forgetting that you're leaving out a major part of the equation: you.
There's a psychological reason you "can't" find anyone else attractive enough, and it's YOUR problem to fix. There is a wide range of "attractive." It's like your own insecurities have narrowed that range for you in order to protect you from rejection.
Why do women always do this? Men don't say one thing and mean another. Its as if you can't accept a man telling you he's not attracted to average looking women, as if you're personally insulted.
It's not psychological as such, I can't explain why. I looked at her back then and there was this certain spark that was there right off the bat (love at first sight as most put it, and we both felt it.) Other women, I've never felt that with before or since. It's not like I'm not open to it, or have only dated women I'm not attracted too, or women who aren't '10s'.
Nor have I "narrowed the range" it was never there in the first place.
Last edited by archineer; 08-24-2019 at 05:01 PM..
LOL "women" don't do anything as a bloc. The point is that you don't appear to be aware of what you're actually saying here.
I know you intend your posts one way, but I promise you they are coming off very differently than you think.
Are you saying that you will only be attracted to that one woman? Your idea of attractive is ... HER??
That's because like all women you think men say something, but really mean something else like women do. We don't, we say exactly what we think without ulterior motive. It's important for men to communicate things accurately. If we don't want you to know something we simply say nothing at all.
No, I've seen and dated lots of women I've found attractive over the years. BUT there was something different that time, falling head over heels in love only happened once.
That's because like all women you think men say something, but really mean something else like women do. We don't, we say exactly what we think without ulterior motive. It's important for men to communicate things accurately. If we don't want you to know something we simply say nothing at all.
This ^^ isn't even relevant to the discussion. Since you landed in this subforum your pattern has been to toss out this strawman argument, usually related to a gender attack, when you're in a corner. It makes you an unreliable narrator.
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Originally Posted by archineer
No, I've seen and dated lots of women I've found attractive over the years.
Then why did you even start this thread?
You set a premise that your choices are the Kelly Brook lookalike or uggos you hate having sex with. It turns out you're talking about true love, which is a whole other topic.
Please get better at actual discussion if you plan to hang out here longer.
I don’t understand what the problem actually is... you’re arm candy?
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