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I read her the replies to this thread because a lot of them are so hesterical to both of us!
All I ask was "why older single men/women love being alone?" Wife and I think it's because:
They want to do whatever, whenever they want to without having to ask/tell a partner about it.
The want to spend money on anything they want and not have to discuss with a partner before doing it.
They can smoke and/or drink without a partner complaining about it.
They don't have to share a thing they own.
All we can think of right now.
Many of you don't like my personality, but I don't have to worry about your likes/dislikes! Wife and I like my personality and I do say things and ask questions to some folks that you folks think are not appropriate. Only thing is, these folks that I tell things/ask questions don't get pi**ed at me......they simply answer the questions. And, when I make a statement with a smile on my face, the lady neighbor knows that I'm somewhat joking and says something back to me.
Nope, sorry don't post pictures! Awe, come on, use your imagination! Just think of me as a young Hans Solo (Harrison Ford) and my wife as Princess Leia (Carrie Fisher) and you'll have it!
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Originally Posted by imcurious
Please post a picture of yourself and your lovely wife in your profile. I am dying of curiosity!
I read her the replies to this thread because a lot of them are so hesterical to both of us!
All I ask was "why older single men/women love being alone?" Wife and I think it's because:
They want to do whatever, whenever they want to without having to ask/tell a partner about it.
The want to spend money on anything they want and not have to discuss with a partner before doing it.
They can smoke and/or drink without a partner complaining about it.
They don't have to share a thing they own.
All we can think of right now.
Many of you don't like my personality, but I don't have to worry about your likes/dislikes! Wife and I like my personality and I do say things and ask questions to some folks that you folks think are not appropriate. Only thing is, these folks that I tell things/ask questions don't get pi**ed at me......they simply answer the questions. And, when I make a statement with a smile on my face, the lady neighbor knows that I'm somewhat joking and says something back to me.
Now, I'm quite a bit younger than most on here, being medically retired from the Marine Corps, but personally I must say your close.
Rt now I'm back in school, working on my masters, and seeing a woman who is working on her masters (Last was working on her PHD if anyone is tracking me and confused)
I have my own place, as she does. We can go to each others, we can spend time together, even a couple days, Or I can have her over and cook (I do, she doesn't) go do things etc...
And I still have MY space, MY freedom, MY time to myself...
There are a few downsides, such as tomorrow we probably arn't going to be able to get together as planned due to work and school.
But married people have that too.
They just have to compromise all the time.
On the subject of living life:
ALL my 'Married with children' friends are envious of the things I do, the places I go, the activities and freedom I have.
(And I get to stop off and visit/spoil my Godchildren like I did this past weekend)
What's not to like, and WHY would I want to give that up?
Uh... Maybe some of us don't know anyone who we want to share a life with? Now, I might be a bit different in that I've never been married (and never wanted children) but certainly haven't seen any increase in men I might want to really get involved with.
Yes, I'm the weird woman who lives up the hill in my little custom contemporary house with six senior adopted mutts. Men used to buzz all around me when I was a younger babe, and I didn't know anyone that I really wanted to throw in together (or didn't get agreement the couple of times someone struck me that way). Now they don't buzz around, rather, I just don't meet people. I'm open to the idea that if I found incredible company (and could be incredible company back at him!) I'd certainly try to live up to the possibility (and all the issues thereof). But it would take a lot of "activation energy." It always does, to change one's status, doesn't it?
everyone in this threat seems to have a nice open mind, and live and let live outlook, except for LoveBoating. It's like he is obsessed with any person's non-married status and quality of life!
i'm single/never married, and do not lack for friends of all gender, age, marital status or interests; but right now i'm just not interested in dating, mating or cohabitating
life is a precious gift to be enjoyed... whether we chose to live that life solo or married, childless or surrounded by a throng of little ones, pet-free or with animals.... "Home is where the heart is, no matter how the heart lives!"
I have an "ex-" living with me right now, we are great friends.
But i lived alone for about 10 years and i loved it. (I'm female.)
I do have a large dog, and would probably get two again someday when she is gone.
I love my life, and have a lot of fun, i like to "party" - i have a deck and a huge yard, and house with a bar, but usually i'd rather be doing it alone! I probly did WAY too much partying in my younger years, and i like my quiet times now. I go to the beach in the summer, but i dont need shows, the casinos, entertainment per se... i like peace of mind
I got married when i was around 24 - divorced at 30. That was 22 years ago. I was in a couple long-term relationships after that, and had some really fun years dating... but i really think i'm happiest alone at this stage in my life.
Since i'm "only" 52 - i dont know what will happen in the future. But i am fine if i dont meet anyone else. I've had great loves in my life, and ONE marriage was definitely enough.
(I didnt read the whole thread yet - will go back and do it now.)
To the OP
I can't speak from experience, I am only 27, but watching my mother-in-law (57), I kind of get where the solitary people are coming from.
She has been a widow for almost a year now and after those first months of intense grieving, she is now starting to enjoy life in a manner that she was never able to when she was married. My father-in-law, God rest his soul, was very strict and rigid, she always had to obbey his rules and do what she was told, no questions asked. Now she doesn't have to give explanations anymore, she can go wherever she wants, whenever she wants to. We don't question her opinions, we just keep an eye on her to make sure that she is ok and she is dealing with her loss. I believe she has done more travelling in the last few months than in her entire married life - nothing fancy, just visiting some relatives, going away to the beach for a couple of weeks, getting back in touch with some friends. At first the idea of being alone was devastating for her, she would give anything to have her husband back, but as long as the situation is like this, she tries to make the best of it.
NOPE!
I let her read your reply. Her verbal reply was "This person has got to be kidding me about me meeting someone at work! Why on earth would I want to leave such a loving, caring man who makes me laugh so darn hard so much and loves cooking? Just to let all of you know, my husband may not contribute financially that much, but I sure don't have to worry about doing laundry, running the vaccum, loading/washing/unloading the dishwasher, dusting, making the bed and cooking meals! We have his SS/Retirement, so he does financially help out. Any other ridiculous questions?"
Remember, she said this!
I wasn't kidding. Like you said about yourself in the OP, I was simply curious.
And it wasn't any more of a ridiculous question than what you posed to your neighbor about her choices in her lifestyle.
Studies show that people who work together do often "fall in love." In fact, the majority of relationships begin while folks are working together, whether doing volunteer work, serving on committees or actually working in an office space - or meeting at a work-related event (charity event, convention, etc).
Several years ago, an attorneys' association did a report on what the number one cause for divorce was - and the results were - financial issues.
These can be real issues for folks and I was asking if these concerns were something you had ever thought about - since you and your wife are a real life situation of a stay at home hubby and a working wife.
ETA: I note you had your wife answer the questions I posed . . . but I was asking YOU if you had ever thought about these things.
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