How long before she starts paying for dates? (pictures, dump, opening)
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The idea of old-fashioned courtship is dead. Women are equal now. Guys, DO NOT pay for the females the few dates. Don't waste money on a girl you may not want to keep around. If you are "courting" a female, you are giving her the advantage. Keep the playing field level.
IMO it works better when the man takes the male role and courts the female, because at least for me, relationships work best when there's a definite male/female polarity. My bf gives in a masculine way (by "providing" for me in paying for our dates) which allows me to be feminine, and to give to him in a feminine way (massages, cooking for him, etc). Works for us, anyway.
The idea of old-fashioned courtship is dead. Women are equal now. Guys, DO NOT pay for the females the few dates. Don't waste money on a girl you may not want to keep around. If you are "courting" a female, you are giving her the advantage. Keep the playing field level.
Tell that to all the men who still do this...you know the ones having successful relationships that don't involve worrying about who paid how much on which date.
Tell that to all the men who still do this...you know the ones having successful relationships that don't involve worrying about who paid how much on which date.
These are also the losers spending tons of money on chicks and will never get anything in return.
This is part of the reason why men have become the weak fragile shells of what we used to be. If you (the male) asked her (the female) out the male pays for EVERYTHING!!!! If the female asks the male out the male pays for EVERYTHING!!! Yeah I know its a double standard, but life is not fair either. Men there are dozens of other ways to figure out of she is a gold digger or not. The easiest is to see if she even offers to pay for (something). The first thing is to establish how far the relationship is going to go (if you're looking for a one night stand make that clear from the start and only spend a set amount. If the relationship is more serious you are probably not going to be physical for some time and you can build up to the physical, so in that case you would spend accordingly). When do women pay? When you get married and your wife wants to take you out to dinner on your birthday. Other than that men pay for everything.
I just asked my husband, (the definitive manly man) who said nowadays it should be more or less equal. He's about as chivalrous and old fashioned as you can get -- but he says the days of men paying for everything is over. Granted, he did pay for almost everything when we first started dating, though he'd let me pick up the tab or pay half on casual dates.
So the answer is that a woman should offer and be prepared to pay from the get go.
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