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Old 11-08-2018, 03:26 PM
 
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I am a momma bear about my kids. I would HAVE to intervene at some point.


Maybe you could send your son over to your friend's house, when you know Rachelle is there, with the ruse of borrowing a cup of sugar or something. Maybe that way, he could discover it for himself.


Here's the thing...it seems to me that your son needs to know his best friend isn't a good friend at all, and he needs to know that both the best friend and the girlfriend have no qualms or loyalties.


If it were me...I would tell my son if I knew something like that. If he got mad at me, so be it.
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:40 PM
 
Location: DFW
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Shaking my head.

Now you know way too much information, and nothing has changed, and your son will feel even more betrayed when he finds out you knew.

You don't even mention if you told her that you would tell him if she didn't, which is the ONLY reason I can imagine to have had this conversation with her.
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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So your son's GF told you that he can't "perform" ?!?!
She told you way too much information.
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:48 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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[quote=Sassybluesy;53592332]I am a momma bear about my kids. I would HAVE to intervene at some point.


Maybe you could send your son over to your friend's house, when you know Rachelle is there, with the ruse of borrowing a cup of sugar or something. Maybe that way, he could discover it for himself.


Here's the thing...it seems to me that your son needs to know his best friend isn't a good friend at all, and he needs to know that both the best friend and the girlfriend have no qualms or loyalties.


If it were me...I would tell my son if I knew something like that. If he got mad at me, so bThey'
My son and her son ARENT friends at all. They're NOT enemies but NOT friends too
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:49 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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So your son's GF told you that he can't "perform" ?!?!
She told you way too much information.
Like I said shes a teen
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Old 11-08-2018, 03:56 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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I think she was trying to have a woman to woman talk by telling me this.
Now this is getting crazy I told my friend what Rachelle said for the cheating and she said girls her age like strong guys or the " Alpha guys " she said this because of the way Rachelle described it to me. My friend thinks its just physical but either way its not getting easier.
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Old 11-08-2018, 04:08 PM
 
Location: Sacramento, Ca
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Personally, I think you should say something. If you get the opportunity to talk with your sons GF, maybe tell her you're giving her the chance to fess up but if she chooses not too, you will.

Your son deserves to know. The longer it goes on, the more potential hurt it could be for him.
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Old 11-08-2018, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Mr. Roger's Neighborhood
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I think she was trying to have a woman to woman talk by telling me this.
Now this is getting crazy I told my friend what Rachelle said for the cheating and she said girls her age like strong guys or the " Alpha guys " she said this because of the way Rachelle described it to me. My friend thinks its just physical but either way its not getting easier.
Attitudes like hers are what get people featured on either Springer, Maury, or (if she were still young enough for the show), Sixteen and Pregnant. I know that I've written this before, but please hope that this young woman is taking her birth control pill religiously or using another extremely reliable form of contraception. Being a teen (barely), does not excuse her behavior and all parties who are in "the know"-- including this young woman--know that.

You need to tell your son and let the chips fall where they may. (With any luck, they'll fall on his girlfriend as she deserves it.) He might hate you for a while for being the bearer of bad news, but he'll get over it in good time.

Tell me if I'm reading this wrong, but it seems like in some small way, your friend is enjoying watching this drama play out.
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Old 11-08-2018, 04:34 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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Attitudes like hers are what get people featured on either Springer, Maury, or (if she were still young enough for the show), Sixteen and Pregnant. I know that I've written this before, but please hope that this young woman is taking her birth control pill religiously or using another extremely reliable form of contraception. Being a teen (barely), does not excuse her behavior and all parties who are in "the know"-- including this young woman--know that.

You need to tell your son and let the chips fall where they may. (With any luck, they'll fall on his girlfriend as she deserves it.) He might hate you for a while for being the bearer of bad news, but he'll get over it in good time.

Tell me if I'm reading this wrong, but it seems like in some small way, your friend is enjoying watching this drama play out.
No. She just dosent like getting involved.
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Old 11-08-2018, 04:35 PM
 
Location: Sacramento
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Personally, I think you should say something. If you get the opportunity to talk with your sons GF, maybe tell her you're giving her the chance to fess up but if she chooses not too, you will.

Your son deserves to know. The longer it goes on, the more potential hurt it could be for him.
Yeah she confessed to me more than I told on here TBH
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