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No one with a brain is gonna call a person picky for not wanting to date a man that doesn't have a job and has a few kids with different women that he doesn't' support.
I ain't buying it.
It just goes against basic logic.
I was born at night.
Just not last night.
Just because because you don't believe that it happens doesn't mean it doesn't happened.
One of my friends tried to set up another one of our girlfriends with one of his guy friends because he thought they'd have lots in common because they both wear glasses. I'm not making this up. My girlfriend is gorgeous and his friend was a combination of Napoleon and his brother Kip from Napoleon Dynamite times 5. And he told our guy friend that he wasn't interested in her lol.
I've also been told I'm picky for not being open to ex-cons and senior citizens.
Again, this is likely an exaggeration. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are in your 20s, there's no way this is true.
I'm single, nice and attractive woman. I get checked out by men but never get asked out. I've even asked my guy friends what's wrong with me. They say I'm the full package: beautiful, smart, sophisticated, funny and an overall good person. They also say they can't make out why I don't get dates.
The usual advice I get is to date people I'm not attracted to.
There isn't a universal standard in attraction. You may look very pretty but still are not a guy's type. Guys like women who are sensual, confident but not overconfident, caring, and good common sense. This is especially true for the wife and mother role. Here your looks are less important than your character. A lot of young women just don't look fit for these mature roles. They could be girlfriends, or casual dates, or friends, but not can be lacking as a wife.
I disagree with this. There is DEFINITELY a universal standard of attraction (especially among women choosing men). Generally, tall with a very specific facial structure. There's a reason why some guys are physically attractive to all women and some guys are physically attractive to no women.
This varies more among men choosing women, but is still generally true.
Despite what is often repeated on online discussion boards, attraction is objective, not subjective.
No one with a brain is gonna call a person picky for not wanting to date a man that doesn't have a job and has a few kids with different women that he doesn't' support.
I ain't buying it.
It just goes against basic logic.
I was born at night.
Just not last night.
It happens though.
If people put alot of infasis on dating, and everyone seems to have and get dates with no problem, and one doesn't, they'l set that one up with a loser, or just any ol' person, because they feel neither has a right to be, or desire to be picky. So, they just up and give you anything.
So, basically "too picky" will be thrown around when some have the mentality that nobody good wants you, thus you should be happy with whatever they get.
Yeah, in the thread, I was saying how all I get approached by are the no-good guys.
When I was in HS, the guys who liked me were.
1. One boy who said he was a devil worshiper, and does drugs.
2. Next, a guy who was around 19-21 and still in HS, with gold teeth, and chains. Thug
3. Another guy who was thuggish, and got into alot of fights. Who apparently liked me for 2 years, but never said anything until much later.
Then more recently, a bum, who approached me on a bike, with baggy clothes, looked unclean and too old for me. If he wasn't a bum, he certainly didn't present himself as otherwise.
And when I was dressed to go out, I was going back inside to get something. My mother laughed at told me the guys next door were just waving and staring at me, and I didn't notice. I told her I didn't care because none of the guys over there were any good either. Drinkers, smokers, ghetto.
So, that seems to be all I get. Hopefully it's alot to due with where I live-small rural area. So, nobody around here has much going on.
I would love to find love, romance and date. But I am no desperate enough to settle for any of the guys I just listed.
My mother tells me I have to date some dogs before getting anything better. My grandmother said that was nonsense, and no matter what, you shouldn't be with someone you can't stand to look at, and who isn't about much.
So, my mother would be happy for me to take any guy since I hate being single. Least it comes off that way, as when guys give me attention, and I am not attracted, she'll comment they're not that bad. But I still have some standards, and I don't think they're unrealistic.
Do I need a Sean Bean, with bulging muscles, who makes 6 figures? NO. Would be nice, but I don't need that, and doubt I would even get that.
But I don't want thugs, losers, bums, creepers, and doormats, or guys I am not attracted to, either. I don't think that's too unreasonable.
But some guys will tell me, that's too picky.
For some reason when I was in high school I attracted the special ed boys. No idea since I wasn't in classes with them. I think because I was nice to them (as I would be to anyone)they thought I liked them.
If the guy is looking for someone who would fit the wife and mother role, he is looking for very different things. Character and personality are much more important than superficial appearance.
If the guy is looking for a casual date, his priority would be easiness of getting laid. Sex is also more important than superficial appearance. Note the how the vigina looks isn't really as important as how it feels and if he can get it often enough.
So, if you are over the top beautiful and confident, guys may not approach you at all because they think you have high expectations. Usually these kinds of women don't get laid with a guy unless he me expectations. Guys don't have patience for that.
No one with an operating brain is gonna say that you are picky for not wanting a guy who....
1 crappy or no job
2 multiple kids out of wedlock
3 not supporting said kids.
I'm calling phooey here.....either that or you seriously need new friends if these are the friends you have attempting to set you up.
I don't have a long list of things I expect from a woman. Be able to support yourself, preferably not have kids, but at my age I think that ship has sailed as most women have kids at some point in their lives. Don't be crazy.
Not a terribly "picky" list.
Sadly in my relative's case because I'm single I should take anything.
Just because because you don't believe that it happens doesn't mean it doesn't happened.
I'm not saying that people don't set up people who are completely bad matches.
I'm saying that I doubt normal people would say that you are being picky because you don't want a jobless babby mamma's having not supporting his kids loser.
The ones that set you up might say you are being picky.. but anyone else wouldn't.
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