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Well, crap, I'm in this 3% for men. The good looking part is subjective (I'm not conceited, so won't say I'm male model material, but I have all my hair and stay in shape), but I do have a good income and am exactly 6'0", as well as marriage minded. I can't find the right woman and nobody's banging down my door.
I'd say that you're probably considered average these days. So women still really won't touch you.
How's your social status? Are you a fun guy that is often the center of attention?
I'd say that you're probably considered average these days. So women still really won't touch you.
How's your social status? Are you a fun guy that is often the center of attention?
Like I said, its so subjective, who knows? I'm in good shape and more of a clean cut guy vs. the bad boy jerk.
My social status in my new city sucks. If you're not from here, you can forget it. Lived here 2 years and have 2 friends, one who I work with. Its sad. But I'm also introverted and a little shy (not like I used to be), so definitely hate lots of attention and not the life of the party.
Like I said, its so subjective, who knows? I'm in good shape and more of a clean cut guy vs. the bad boy jerk.
My social status in my new city sucks. If you're not from here, you can forget it. Lived here 2 years and have 2 friends, one who I work with. Its sad. But I'm also introverted and a little shy (not like I used to be), so definitely hate lots of attention and not the life of the party.
Ah, so this is your problem. If you become extroverted (or fake it til you make it) and build your social status significantly, then you will have women beating down your door.
It's not JUST looks. Looks are the most important thing, but social status and being the "fun guy" are a close second and third. Just consider yourself lucky that you already have the things you can't change (the looks).
People, both genders, complain about a lack of compatible potential partners. The issue is not lack lack of people, it's lack of reality.
YOU CAN:
have an attractive mate
have a person that gels with your "style"
have a great relationship
The issue is people have there heads in the clouds. There is an endless pool of available people that can more than fulfill your "requirements".
Be flexible. Most people are very rigid and often times confuses that with " I refuse to settle". We don't want you to "settle" we want to to be happy. In order to be happy, you MUST be flexible.
That's the reality, BE FLEXIBLE. Remain open minded. People come from all corners and walks of life. With over 6 billion people on the planet, all of us has MANY compatible candidates to choose from.
I find it laughable when people complain about not being able to find anyone that lives up to their "standards".
I'll repeat: BE FLEXIBLE. Do not confuse this with "settling". It's not the same.
So very true. I don't need a "hot" mate. But just as a man wants a woman he personally finds attractive, it is the same way for me regarding men. Anyway, these so-called beauty and so-called beast situations rarely work out. That's a fairytale. What "beauty" has such depth that she would fall for a man that could not even (generously so) be categorized as attractive? What so-called beast is so spiritually pure, mature and secure, he can deal with the down-sides of dating an extraordinarily attractive woman? Such as, other men hitting on her?
Ah, so this is your problem. If you become extroverted (or fake it til you make it) and build your social status significantly, then you will have women beating down your door.
It's not JUST looks. Looks are the most important thing, but social status and being the "fun guy" are a close second and third. Just consider yourself lucky that you already have the things you can't change (the looks).
If you think you can fake it til you make it and go from introvert to extrovert, you're wrong. You can't completely change your personality. Trust me, I didn't know this info in my 20's and thought there must be something wrong with me because I was quiet. Its just not so. The "fun guy" thing only happens in groups where I know people already and am comfortable with them. I can't force that.
Stop jumping to extremes. No one said anything about women dumpster diving for men. Did you see my example about the kind of guy that I'm talking about (Okay looking with a good career and no kids)?
I'm not jumping to extremes. You are the one saying that quality women are as rare as unicorns and that quality men are only 3% of the male population. Those are your words, not mine.
You stated that a quality woman is attractive, single, and comes with no baggage. A quality man is attractive, tall, with a good career and great personality.
Anyway, if "quality" men and women - by your own definition - make up only 3% of the single population, then I guess the other 97% of men need to mate with the other 97% of women.
Well, I've been told I'm decent looking and I would send thoughtful emails to women and get no response. Thats how it always is with online dating. I'm shocked the attractive women say they only get emails from sleazy guys out for sex. I know that wasn't me.
But you've said you only go for younger women and those women have more more choices. When I did online in my 20's I had so many responses and I deleted almost all.
I'm not jumping to extremes. You are the one saying that quality women are as rare as unicorns and that quality men are only 3% of the male population. Those are your words, not mine.
You stated that a quality woman is attractive, single, and comes with no baggage. A quality man is attractive, tall, with a good career and great personality.
Anyway, if "quality" men and women - by your own definition - make up only 3% of the single population, then I guess the other 97% of men need to mate with the other 97% of women.
It's simple math.
My idea of a quality man is someone with a career (doesn't matter what kind), average weight, average looks, and no kids. I don't care about his height or his income.
My idea of a quality man is someone with a career (doesn't matter what kind), average weight, average looks, and no kids. I don't care about his height or his income.
Any job can be a career. The CEO of McDonalds worked his way from being a low level employee at McDonalds.
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Any job can be a career. The CEO of McDonalds worked his way from being a cashier at McDonalds.
You probably wouldn't have dated him when he was a cashier right?
Why in the world would he date you now that he is a CEO?
He wasn't a cashier. He was an electrical engineer that joined McDonald's because of his robotics and automation design ability.
And she probably would have dated an engineer.
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