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I'm single, nice and attractive woman. I get checked out by men but never get asked out. I've even asked my guy friends what's wrong with me. They say I'm the full package: beautiful, smart, sophisticated, funny and an overall good person. They also say they can't make out why I don't get dates.
The usual advice I get is to date people I'm not attracted to.
Well, hello there! I'm from Atlanta, and now stuck in OK. But if you're in Dallas, I'm not that far.
This is 100% correct. I had a few nice looking guys contact me, but most were scammers from Africa. The other nice looking guys tended to be guys just wanting sex. The rest were generally guys not what I wanted and illiterate men. This whole idea some have that decent looking men are contacting women on sites and being rejected is a myth.
Well, I've been told I'm decent looking and I would send thoughtful emails to women and get no response. Thats how it always is with online dating. I'm shocked the attractive women say they only get emails from sleazy guys out for sex. I know that wasn't me.
Well, I've been told I'm decent looking and I would send thoughtful emails to women and get no response. Thats how it always is with online dating. I'm shocked the attractive women say they only get emails from sleazy guys out for sex. I know that wasn't me.
My impression of online dating is it's like blindfolding a dozen people and giving them a big stick and telling them to "go get the pinata." Only there is only one pinata in a room with 50 beehives Sure, there is a pinata full of good stuff (good men and good women). But your chances of hitting a beehive or getting whacked in the head by another pinata busting person are much higher. All it takes is a few bad swings and you run away thinking... not worth it! But once in a while, someone gets the prize.
To address your statement, I think a lot of profiles online are dead or even not real. Especially women's profiles as so many guys feel the need to create fake women's profiles to "test" things and blog about it.
No, she wouldn't. For one thing, no one would know she's a nice person and single, just by looking at her. Men would still be too shy to approach, or would assume she's taken, not to mention all the guys who have given up on trying to find anyone or who consider approaching to be "too much work", believe they have nothing to offer women, or assume women will approach them. Men that this relatively attractive, nice woman approaches will still turn her down because she's not their type. Players will ignore her because she looks too "nice", and not hot-to-trot.
The quality of women hasn't gone way down. It's the dating scene, attitudes and complexes that's the same-old, same-old.
If men can't assume that women will approach them why can women?
My impression of online dating is it's like blindfolding a dozen people and giving them a big stick and telling them to "go get the pinata." Only there is only one pinata in a room with 50 beehives Sure, there is a pinata full of good stuff (good men and good women). But your chances of hitting a beehive or getting whacked in the head by another pinata busting person are much higher. All it takes is a few bad swings and you run away thinking... not worth it! But once in a while, someone gets the prize.
To address your statement, I think a lot of profiles online are dead or even not real. Especially women's profiles as so many guys feel the need to create fake women's profiles to "test" things and blog about it.
Probably right. Now that I live in the most undesirable city in the U.S. for dating, I have no other choice but to do online dating. Just broke up with someone who I thought had wife potential. I'm so not looking forward to starting this again. Its a nightmare.
Being in your 30s is not an "older woman", unless you are like 18, in which case, you are still a boy & need to grow up.
Women 10 years younger are hardly women - they are girls, and they have growing up to do too. Let them grow up. FYI, the ones who will grow up into quality women are likely not focused on dating right now & generally won't be a part of any party scene. That doesn't mean they are not open to dating, but it won't be the focus, and they likely won't be engaging in hook-ups to boost their self-esteem. This means you will need to meet them in places where people refine themselves and grow into better people, not places where people party & hook-up.
There is an entire group of women between 18 and 30s, women in their 20s. And, yes, women in their 20s are women, not girls.
Part of the issue is that many women spend their 20s (their prime reproductive years) working on their careers, as opposed to settling down. You do realize that once a woman enters her 30s, it becomes more difficult to have children, right? The woman that I mentioned previously (my supervisor) is mid-30s and recently married. She is having a ton of trouble getting pregnant now.
You are saying that attractive women want to date attractive men. OMG, how dare they!
I guess they didn't get the memo that they should be dating unattractive men with crummy jobs and bad personalities.
Then you go on to say that quality women are as rare "unicorns". Sounds a lot like the pot calling the kettle black, doesn't it?
Stop jumping to extremes. No one said anything about women dumpster diving for men. Did you see my example about the kind of guy that I'm talking about (Okay looking with a good career and no kids)?
No because a 6 foot plus man is about 15% of the population.
Cross reference that with a 6 foot GOOD looking man, with decent income....you are gonna get about 3% of the population.
If you consider yourself top 3% in looks for a woman, then by all means go for it. But I reckon most girls here are just average at best and demanding the top 3% of men.
No because a 6 foot plus man is about 15% of the population.
Cross reference that with a 6 foot GOOD looking man, with decent income....you are gonna get about 3% of the population.
If you consider yourself top 3% in looks for a woman, then by all means go for it. But I reckon most girls here are just average at best and demanding the top 3% of men.
This is very simple statistics here.
Well, crap, I'm in this 3% for men. The good looking part is subjective (I'm not conceited, so won't say I'm male model material, but I have all my hair and stay in shape), but I do have a good income and am exactly 6'0", as well as marriage minded. I can't find the right woman and nobody's banging down my door.
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Sure, there is a pinata full of good stuff (good men and good women). But your chances of hitting a beehive or getting whacked in the head by another pinata busting person are much higher. All it takes is a few bad swings and you run away thinking... not worth it! But once in a while, someone gets the prize.
