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I was set up on a blind date with a guy on probation, no job (and he last job was something menial) and had several kids out of wedlock he wasn't supporting. I said no and was told I was too picky. Why would I want to date someone like this? I'd rather be single.
With friends like this setting you up, you don't need enemies.
I think most women get approached by bums and druggies from time to time. It doesn't mean women should be dating homeless guys and skid row alcoholics. It may mean they should be approaching the guys who are too inhibited to approach them.
I was set up on a blind date with a guy on probation, no job (and he last job was something menial) and had several kids out of wedlock he wasn't supporting. I said no and was told I was too picky. Why would I want to date someone like this? I'd rather be single.
Sounds like some truth is getting stretched here.
No one with an operating brain is gonna say that you are picky for not wanting a guy who....
1 crappy or no job
2 multiple kids out of wedlock
3 not supporting said kids.
I'm calling phooey here.....either that or you seriously need new friends if these are the friends you have attempting to set you up.
I don't have a long list of things I expect from a woman. Be able to support yourself, preferably not have kids, but at my age I think that ship has sailed as most women have kids at some point in their lives. Don't be crazy.
With friends like this setting you up, you don't need enemies.
This was a relative because many of my relatives "feel sorry I'm single". Most of my cousins are married (even the younger ones) and I'm the old maid and to them I'm picky. I'm picky because I don't date dads, or criminals or a bunch of other guys.
In my opinion, women are not picky enough. You have to kiss a lot of frogs, as they say. I see women getting impatient, or losing hope that they'll never meet "Mr. Right", so they settle for a frog.
Mostly, I think people are just too impatient. I hear both men and women who are barely out of college, feeling hopeless and worrying that they will spend their lives alone, just because they haven't found the right person yet.
The divorce rate would be lower if people had more patience and were a lot pickier. Just my opinion.
I married my husband at age 50, after having been single for more than 18 years. He was worth the wait! I'm so glad that I didn't jump into marriage with any of the other dudes I dated. They were decent and good men but not right for me. You don't find men like my husband around every street corner, he is a rare gem.
I think most women get approached by bums and druggies from time to time. It doesn't mean women should be dating homeless guys and skid row alcoholics. It may mean they should be approaching the guys who are too inhibited to approach them.
Yeah, in the thread, I was saying how all I get approached by are the no-good guys.
When I was in HS, the guys who liked me were.
1. One boy who said he was a devil worshiper, and does drugs.
2. Next, a guy who was around 19-21 and still in HS, with gold teeth, and chains. Thug
3. Another guy who was thuggish, and got into alot of fights. Who apparently liked me for 2 years, but never said anything until much later.
Then more recently, a bum, who approached me on a bike, with baggy clothes, looked unclean and too old for me. If he wasn't a bum, he certainly didn't present himself as otherwise.
And when I was dressed to go out, I was going back inside to get something. My mother laughed at told me the guys next door were just waving and staring at me, and I didn't notice. I told her I didn't care because none of the guys over there were any good either. Drinkers, smokers, ghetto.
So, that seems to be all I get. Hopefully it's alot to due with where I live-small rural area. So, nobody around here has much going on.
I would love to find love, romance and date. But I am no desperate enough to settle for any of the guys I just listed.
My mother tells me I have to date some dogs before getting anything better. My grandmother said that was nonsense, and no matter what, you shouldn't be with someone you can't stand to look at, and who isn't about much.
So, my mother would be happy for me to take any guy since I hate being single. Least it comes off that way, as when guys give me attention, and I am not attracted, she'll comment they're not that bad. But I still have some standards, and I don't think they're unrealistic.
Do I need a Sean Bean, with bulging muscles, who makes 6 figures? NO. Would be nice, but I don't need that, and doubt I would even get that.
But I don't want thugs, losers, bums, creepers, and doormats, or guys I am not attracted to, either. I don't think that's too unreasonable.
But some guys will tell me, that's too picky.
Last edited by HappyRain; 08-24-2014 at 01:47 PM..
No one with an operating brain is gonna say that you are picky for not wanting a guy who....
1 crappy or no job
2 multiple kids out of wedlock
3 not supporting said kids.
I'm calling phooey here.....either that or you seriously need new friends if these are the friends you have attempting to set you up.
I don't have a long list of things I expect from a woman. Be able to support yourself, preferably not have kids, but at my age I think that ship has sailed as most women have kids at some point in their lives. Don't be crazy.
Not a terribly "picky" list.
This isn't phooey. This happens a lot.
One of my friends tried to set up another one of our girlfriends with one of his guy friends because he thought they'd have lots in common because they both wear glasses. I'm not making this up. My girlfriend is gorgeous and his friend was a combination of Napoleon and his brother Kip from Napoleon Dynamite times 5. And he told our guy friend that he wasn't interested in her lol.
I've also been told I'm picky for not being open to ex-cons and senior citizens.
I was set up on a blind date with a guy on probation, no job (and he last job was something menial) and had several kids out of wedlock he wasn't supporting. I said no and was told I was too picky. Why would I want to date someone like this? I'd rather be single.
I agree, women are told to settle. I often get told I am picky but men aren't.
These kinds of responses are very strange to me. It seems women always jump to extremes here.
When we suggest stop being so picky, it means to maybe relax on the height requirements, looks requirements, educational requirements, etc. I knew a woman once that disqualified guys if they didn't like the same sports teams as her. That's ridiculous.
Not dating a bum with multiple kids is not being too picky, but is perfectly sensible.
One of my friends tried to set up another one of our girlfriends with one of his guy friends because he thought they'd have lots in common because they both wear glasses. I'm not making this up. My girlfriend is gorgeous and his friend was a combination of Napoleon and his brother Kip from Napoleon Dynamite times 5. And he told our guy friend that he wasn't interested in her lol.
I've also been told I'm picky for not being open to ex-cons and senior citizens.
Upgrade your friends then.
No one with a brain is gonna call a person picky for not wanting to date a man that doesn't have a job and has a few kids with different women that he doesn't' support.
In my opinion, women are not picky enough. You have to kiss a lot of frogs, as they say. I see women getting impatient, or losing hope that they'll never meet "Mr. Right", so they settle for a frog.
Mostly, I think people are just too impatient. I hear both men and women who are barely out of college, feeling hopeless and worrying that they will spend their lives alone, just because they haven't found the right person yet.
The divorce rate would be lower if people had more patience and were a lot pickier. Just my opinion.
I married my husband at age 50, after having been single for more than 18 years. He was worth the wait! I'm so glad that I didn't jump into marriage with any of the other dudes I dated. They were decent and good men but not right for me. You don't find men like my husband around every street corner, he is a rare gem.
Waiting until you're 50 is all well and good....unless you want kids.
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