If you take a woman on a date to a very expensive restaurant, will she think that you have only one thing on your mind? (relation, relative)
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So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.
Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?
If you take a woman to a $200/plate restaurant that has no Michelin stars, she'll wonder why you are wasting your money. You have to make a difference if you want to get laid!
Sorry you don’t get to be the alien. I don’t agree with you all of the time, but I see your point here. I’ve been on a lot of dinner dates, I’ve never had to give it up for prime rib or catch of the day. When the menu says: “ask” instead of listing the price, I know it’s not going to be $6.99.
It’s flattering. It’s very nice, I say thank you.
I was going to eat dinner anyway, so if I decide I’m inviting a guy and paying, I don’t expect him to be in tiptop performance after that 5 course meal, either —it’s just dinner for chrissakes.
Do you have proof that tons of women use dating apps to get free meals? I did online dating for at least a year and very few men do dinner on the first date. Very few. It's mostly coffee or a beer. And most women I know are well capable of affording their own food to eat. They aren't starving to death waiting for a man to feed them.
You need higher standards!
No dinner, no date. Make them work for it.
You are projecting your socioeconomic class on someone else. Someone high income taking a dinner date in a high end NYC restaurant could be like me taking someone to an Olive Garden.
And I think that's why I have expressed that I'd be uncomfortable with it, mainly. I'm doing ok but I am not THAT wealthy, and if I were to get there, I would not want it to be because I found a man to pull me up into a higher socioeconomic ranking. I'd want to arrive in that echelon of society by my own merits and efforts...or not at all. Or, I could be ok if I began a relationship with a man and we were both in about the same strata, but some event like an inheritance changed our fortunes (together) much later on. But we'd need years to build trust and bonding before that happened.
I guess part of that is that I've heard so much noise about women who chase after men with money, I don't want any partner of mine EVER to think that I love him for such a reason, rather than for who he is. When I love a man, I'm all into his whole self. And I want him to be able to see that and have faith in that, because it's true.
At this point, if I went on a date with a man and he were either far more (obviously) wealthy than I, or far less so, I would not feel comfortable. And furthermore if a guy acted like he had to put on a show, flash a bunch of money around, jump through hoops to impress or entice me, I would also feel like he was putting me on some kind of very strange pedestal. I'm a pretty down to earth human being...I don't like things that seem overly pretentious. This would, for me.
But I'm not suggesting that any other woman should feel this or that way about it. Seems there are women who would appreciate it and be flattered, which is probably good since there are men who would want to do such things! Lids for pots and all.
I think that most of the dates my fiance and I went on, in the early months of our relationship, were at the Ihop up the street. It's convenient and I like breakfast food. We each paid for our own, and we still do when we eat out. He has proven his worth to me in other ways.
Every woman will think differently. I wouldn't likely let someone spend that on an early date (probably on any date) unless I knew he had lots of money. Money spent guarantees nothing. Does it really matter what she will think?
And I think that's why I have expressed that I'd be uncomfortable with it, mainly. I'm doing ok but I am not THAT wealthy, and if I were to get there, I would not want it to be because I found a man to pull me up into a higher socioeconomic ranking. I'd want to arrive in that echelon of society by my own merits and efforts...or not at all. Or, I could be ok if I began a relationship with a man and we were both in about the same strata, but some event like an inheritance changed our fortunes (together) much later on. But we'd need years to build trust and bonding before that happened.
I guess part of that is that I've heard so much noise about women who chase after men with money, I don't want any partner of mine EVER to think that I love him for such a reason, rather than for who he is. When I love a man, I'm all into his whole self. And I want him to be able to see that and have faith in that, because it's true.
At this point, if I went on a date with a man and he were either far more (obviously) wealthy than I, or far less so, I would not feel comfortable. And furthermore if a guy acted like he had to put on a show, flash a bunch of money around, jump through hoops to impress or entice me, I would also feel like he was putting me on some kind of very strange pedestal. I'm a pretty down to earth human being...I don't like things that seem overly pretentious. This would, for me.
But I'm not suggesting that any other woman should feel this or that way about it. Seems there are women who would appreciate it and be flattered, which is probably good since there are men who would want to do such things! Lids for pots and all.
I think that most of the dates my fiance and I went on, in the early months of our relationship, were at the Ihop up the street. It's convenient and I like breakfast food. We each paid for our own, and we still do when we eat out. He has proven his worth to me in other ways.
So what if it's the very affluent guy and that Michelin star restaurant where you have to make reservations weeks in advance? The guy had someone cancel and needs a fill-in dinner date rather than cancel. Your only ask is to be a pleasant dinner companion.
Someone that affluent doesn't need to put on a show.
So, I'm curious about how people would react to this. Suppose you are having dinner with a woman at a 5-star restaurant where the entrees are $200.
Is she going to think you are doing this only because you want guaranteed intimacy from her?
I wouldn't want to go to a restaurant like that even if he was paying. That's INSANE. It would make me sick to spend that much money on food.
If a guy wanted to spend that much money on me, I'd request he buy me a NORMAL dinner and donate the remaining amount to a good cause.
I wouldn't think he only had one thing on his mind. But I would think he had ridiculous spending habits, and that would be a huge turn off to me.
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