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Even if you are interested, you don’t accept the first proposal of a date?
I just like to go at my pace. I can have social anxiety at times so I need to psyche myself before lots of social interaction. I think thats a legitimate reason.
What if she says no because she has another social engagement planned, or some other legitimate reason?
"No" doesnt always mean "Never." If she says it means "never," then believe her and back off.
My father asked my mom out 3 times before she said yes. My mom said she was very attracted to hom but she was just actually busy. My father almost gave up but then they got married and had 2 kids.
That’s fine. I’d just say give me a call or text me when you are free. After I initially asked the ball would be in her court. If a certain amount of time passed then I’d just figure she wasn’t very interested.
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I just like to go at my pace. I can have social anxiety at times so I need to psyche myself before lots of social interaction. I think thats a legitimate reason.
Do you explain this facts to dudes when you reject them? If you didn’t provide an explanation to why, this could come off as game playing.
Do you explain this facts to dudes when you reject them? If you didn’t provide an explanation to why, this could come off as game playing.
I am here to tell you than ANYTHING can "come off" as pretty much anything in the wild and wooley world of dating. It is not her job to maintain a guy's feelings of whether or not she was playing games. She is only responsible for her.
Well, I disagree. I think its ok to ask 2 or 3 times or at least keep talking to get to know each other better.
Im actually being stalked now but that has been years of almost constant pursuing. Id not consider it harassment if a guy respectfully made attempts to get to know me. I very rarely accept the first proposal of a date.
You would be nearly alone. Most of us don't want to have to beat guys off with a stick.
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I am here to tell you than ANYTHING can "come off" as pretty much anything in the wild and wooley world of dating. It is not her job to maintain a guy's feelings of whether or not she was playing games. She is only responsible for her.
All I’m saying is it would be a disservice to her if she is legitimately interested but didn’t feel ready if she didn’t explain that. A lot of well-suited guys would be understanding to the fact if she explained that.
Men are looked at as the leaders\ decision makers so confidence is a must for us. Woman look up to us literally and figuratively in relationships as the authority figures.
A lot of women can’t even handle telling us what food they want lol never mind making tough decisions
But it’s also a vague term in attraction because nobodies always confident it just basically means social confidence enough to approach her
LOL. This is Just Wacky. For me, confidence is important so I don't wind up with a project guy who wants me to fix his Mommy issues.
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